First off: sorry guys! It’s been a while since I last updated you on how my fear of driving is going. I’m so behind I don’t even know where to begin!
Let’s see… the week before last I went driving twice again, which marked a total of five weeks I have been driving regularly! It’s such a small accomplishment, but boy, it feels good. It’s not a lot of driving, but for me it is. I don’t know if I ever thought that was possible-five weeks! That’s more than a month of driving! It’s kind of like a milestone for me-a way of being able to see progress.
Even better, my dad says I’ve made a lot of progress. On one of our drives, my dad took me to an empty parking lot where I practiced driving in reverse. I had to make figure eights around two islands. It was a little frustrating at first, but now I feel like I know a little bit more about what the back end of my car is doing and how it works.
My dad and I did the same “driving drill” once before, and as we were driving home my dad said I’d remarkably improved since then. Whereas before I was a two, my dad said, I had now moved up to a five on a scale of one-to-ten. That was really encouraging for me to hear because it’s so hard to know if I’m making any progress at all. I’m driving more, sure; but am I getting any better at it? My dad assured me I was.
I also drove my little sister to a friend’s house. Of course, she had no idea where that friend lived exactly, so I had a lot of fast stops and quick decisions to make, which my dad said I did very well on. Later my sister even came up to me and complimented me on how I’d done. I was very shocked. I must have done well, because it’s not like my sister to just randomly say something like that. (You know, sibling rivalry and all that. It goes against the rules to compliment your sibling, people.)
So all that made for a really encouraging week. I only went driving once last week, however.
It’s a little distressing because it feels like a step back, but I’m going to follow the advice I’m about give and not let it stress me out too much. I’ll just go driving three days this week to make up for it!
Ready for that advice? Here ya go:
Fear Tip: Have you ever noticed the slogan here? “Facing my fears, one day at a time”? Or have you ever noticed that when I blog about facing something on my list I always mention what day I’m on? Have you wondered why that is? It’s because the only realistic way to reach goals is to take it in small increments. You’ll never accomplish your goal if you go for it all at once. You’ll get overwhelmed quickly and defeated just as fast. Instead, take it one day at a time. Make your goal big enough to challenge you, but small enough to reach. Then, when you’re ready for it, make your goal a little bigger.
For instance, right now I’m driving two days a week. At first my goal was to just get behind the wheel. As I grew and accomplished that goal, my new goal became to drive two days a week. Now I’m feeling like I could realistically change my goal and make it three. I could have begun by saying, “I’m going to learn how to drive, and drive five days a week.” However, if I had done that, I know I would have gotten burned out and given up. Instead, I’m making sure I can realistically reach my goals until I get to being 100% comfortable driving and can get my license.
So set up realistic goals, and celebrate each accomplishment. It may be small, but every small step takes you closer to that end result. And if you miss a day like I did last week, don’t let it defeat you. Just pick it back up again tomorrow. Instead of looking at how far you have to go, look instead at how far you’ve come.
You can do it, friend. I believe in you.
P.S. Don’t forget to submit your entries for POW Competition II! The competition ends tomorrow night, Tuesday, June 28th. If you have a funny line for Philemaphobia: the fear of kissing, send it in! Check the post below this for more details.
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